The modern age has given us many wonderful things that only a few generations ago would have seemed like an impossible dream. We can now communicate simply and cheaply at the touch of a button. Everything we want seems like it is just a click of a mouse away. It sometimes seems to me that perhaps life has gotten too easy and with it our expectations have increased.
It can be like that with internet dating. Here we are, sat in front of our computer screen or our smart phones talking to people we have never met but quite like from assessing a bio, a picture and from emailing. It is fantastic fun but when it comes to finally meeting that person we really do think we like then that is where the age of problems of nerves and insecurity start to kick in. You see, our great way of chatting, flirting and dating online can give us a confidence that we just do not have when meeting people for real. In the real world we have the extra layer of communication that is body language to deal with. You may be a great communicator on the internet where you have some time to come up with witty banter, great one liners and well thought out responses but in the real world you have to think quickly and respond to both verbal communication and perhaps more importantly factor in your date’s body language.
I am not going to go discuss body language in any great detail but I will say that I have been in that awkward moment when first meeting someone for real that I had been dating online. Although we really got on in cyberspace I could tell from the first instance that we met that he was not interested in me in a physical sense. We had a really great dating experience but ended up as friends rather than anything else. At the time I felt quite deflated and even a little angry at myself for hoping just a little too much. Hope is a good thing but it does need tempering with reality.
What I want to highlight here is that your internet dating experiences are great and should be enjoyed to the maximum but keep in mind that if you wish to take things further and meet for real then you should prepare yourself mentally for what is to come. Don’t be too serious but give some thought to venue and setting and try not to build the date up too much. Try to see it as going on a first date even though you may have known the person for ages. In that way you will be better prepared if things don’t work out as you hoped.
Of course, I sincerely hope that all of your internet dating experiences are great and they all work out how you wish.
